Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Turning Twenty

Let it be known that on the eve on which I turned the ripe age of twenty, I stood in the bathroom in my Reckless T-shirt without pants on, blow drying my hair. What a glorious moment in which I emerged from the bathroom a fully fledged adult. 

The choices I make will matter now. I know I'll make some bad ones, but there will be some good ones too. I know there will be some hurt, but there also be some wonder. 
I've become less eager than I once was. I am no longer running off into the future. I like the now. After all, isn't this the future I was waiting for?

I have everything I ever thought I needed, and so much more. 
And as far as my life so far goes, I think that, despite all the bad choices I've made, there's a whole lot of good that came out of it.  

How blessed I am to have not one, but two groups of weirdos who with their presence have granted me a family. 
How blessed I am to have books to read and people to love and pages on which to write. 
How blessed I am to have this boy whom is so much more than I deserve and who gives me everything I never asked for and everything I never thought I'd needed. 
How blessed I am to have a mother who with her goofy wisdom and unlikely strength allows me to be weak when I can no longer be strong. 
How blessed I am to have my troop of boys who give me more love than I know what to do with. 
How blessed I am to have a father who knows me, sometimes more so than I know myself.
Oh, how blessed I am to have fierce friends who build me higher with their feisty words. 
How blessed I am to have goofy friends, who make me laugh with my whole face.
How blessed I am to have a fight-man and a humble-dragon who look out for me, even when I do not need it. 
How blessed I am to have a little sister, even though I never got one. And an older brother, because I've always wanted one. 

 
I have enough best friends to last me a lifetime; best friends in the form of brothers, and soul mates, and kindred-spirits, and best-mates, and business-partners. Oh Lord, you have given me more than I ever needed. Me, this shell of a person, so incomplete and insufficient, who had been so solitary in my lonesomeness, yet is now so showered with blessings. 

"Only through the one who grants our blessings can one who once had nothing so suddenly gain everything."  

I wrote these words when I was sixteen, but I do not think I understood them then.  
There were a lot of things lacking in my life at that age. Though I had blessings tenfold more than I deserved, there was a void in my heart in the form of my own destitute gratitude.
I am by no means rich by societies standards, but I am wealthy in my heart and in my soul.

For twenty, this is pretty good I think.  

The future is now. And as scary as that may be, looking back behind me, and looking at all the wonderful faces that surround me, I think I have everything I need. 


 

Sunday, August 5, 2018

Another Rainy Day

I am always growing as a writer. 
Every time I sit down to write, I find I am not the same writer I was before.


The process of growing is a frustrating one mainly because people do not change until the situation forces them to. 
It is usually only when we are forced to face new struggles and challenge new frustrations that we realize: the person we are now is not enough anymore. The person we were yesterday is not strong enough anymore. She is not smart enough, not wise enough or brave enough to face what life brings today, and so, she must become the person she needs to be tomorrow. 

I do not become a better writer by continuing to be the writer I was yesterday. I cannot always speak the same words or write the same scenes. I must always be changing. I must always be searching for something new. 
Yesterday is no longer enough to fill today, but the thrill of tomorrow might be. The thrill of knowing that there are always new words to learn, new things to experience, and new hurts to feel. The thrill of knowing that the future is always one day away and that each day offers a new chance to be better, stronger, wiser, braver

And though the person I was yesterday was not strong enough to face this, I know better now. 
And tomorrow will come despite whether or not I am ready.



With every new season, new lessons arise, and this summer I learned to not rely on the rain to give the words.
I love to write when it rains. But, in the draughts and the sunny days, in days spent locked up at jobs and at school as the rain thrums on the rooftops, on late rainy night when the words come like with each drop from the sky, how often did I stop to just listen to the rain? How often did I stop to enjoy them?

So, yesterday, when rain fell and streets flooded, it was time to leave the laptop behind. It was time to stop speaking, and go out and listen to the sound of the rain.

 


Tuesday, July 31, 2018

The Story of a House

A Brief Foreward:  As a writer, I have always strived to take something ordinary and mundane and bestow it with somewhat of an enchantment. It really doesn't take much to see the extrordinary within the average if you have a little imagination.
But it occured to me the other day that in some ways I am not a writer at all; I am neither a creator or a storyteller, but a listener. 
I discovered a long time ago that there are stories all around me, camuflouged as the mundane and the ordinary, shrouded by the dusts of reality. But beneath all that incoherent noise, the flustered chaos and realities timelapses, there is always a story. One must only learn to listen.


Well, that is exactly what I did when this last spring I wrote a piece for publication: I listened! So, without further adue, here is The Story of a House. (For, believe it or not, sometimes houses tell stories too.)


The Story of a House
There was once a house which stood in the woods down the road. It had been a wise old house. A house whose floors creaked with age. A house whose walls were filled with knowledge and dusty precarious corners. The house had been a home to many, but mostly it had been home to time. Time, which like ever pattering footsteps wandered through the silence. The house whispered of time when the wind howled through its drafts and hollows. It groaned of time, like old bones that creak when it storms; and, when the sun shone onto its old wooden floors, you could see every withered wrinkle.
Within this house time had stored its riches, like a vast trove of treasures. The house remembered them all, every memory, big and small; every life which had lived under its ancient roof.  

It remembered the retired professor who lived there once, long ago, after the war. He had a strong sturdy voice and walked with a cane. He had been a storyteller at heart. He filled the house with tales of war and memories of friends deceased, like faded photographs hung along the walls. He filled the house with tales of battles, not those fought on the fields, but the battles that time invokes on the soul; the battles of a boy that does not wish to grow old. 
The old man had died there in that house, old and weary. The house was younger then, but even so, the weariness, which was once the old man's, lived in the house even after he was gone.

The house remembered the young man who lived there after. He had dark hair and bright brilliant eyes. He had been a man of great ambition. And, when he moved into the house, he had brought with him a lifetime of potential. 
The young man had tried to be a lot of things throughout his lifetime. He had tried to be a writer and a painter, an explorer and an adventurer. Unfortunately, the young man's ambitions outdid him. He fell ill at quite a young age. He left the house one winter's night, coughing and hacking. He never came home. His unfulfilled potential wandered the house for a long time after he left, like a ghost stuck in his routine, making coffee in the morning and shuffling around in his slippers and housecoat in the evening. And, sometimes, late at night, you could still see his desk lamp burning and the thin silhouette, like a distant memory, of a young man of great ambition sitting hunched over his typewriter, the rhythm of ideas churning and working, coming to life as he writes tales of unfulfilled potential. 

After the man of ambition there came a young woman. She inherited the old house, and the house remembered her too. She might have been the young man's niece, but that is not what the house remembered. The house remembered her face, reflected in the windows as she looks out at the sun and at the rain. The house remembered her silent footsteps, wandering the house through her sleepless nights. Most of all, the house remembered her laughter, clear and full of wonder. 
The young girl married in the backyard of that house, under the great oak tree that stood beside it, its ancient companion standing by it through the turnings of time. The girl had two children in that house, and the house remembered their laughter too. It remembered her midnight wanderings and nighttime kisses, and the sound of her voice singing lullabies. 
The girl's husband died ten years after their wedding day. After that the girl no longer laughed as often as she cried, a silent weeping in the night, a stifled sobbing that no one ever heard. Over time the children grew, and, eventually, they left her. 
But the house had stayed. The girl stayed also. 
She wandered the house often at night, and she stared out the window, murmuring lullabies to the moon. Her laughter was a sound that became unfamiliar, forgotten by all but the reminiscence of the house. She rarely cried then, but there was sorrow in her step and pain in her silence. 
She too died in that house.

The house stood empty for a long time after that. Its only inhabitant was the ever-persistent ticking of time which, bit by bit, took its toll of the house. 
Houses do not age like people do. But even so, the house grew weary, for it knew the weariness of old men when life runs thin. For a long time, the house had ceased to be a home; it knew the bitterness of unfulfilled potential and the frustration of crippled ambition. The house became stale and numb, undusted and uncared for. And the house was filled with sorrow. It knew that best of all. 
What the house had not known yet was what came after. What came after would undo the house. For neither heartache nor affliction can cripple quite like addiction. What came after was anger.

Many years later a car pulled up to the house and a man dressed in black stepped out. He had lived there once as a boy. He had grown up in this house. He had played in its yard and climbed the great oak tree which stands beside it. He learned to ride his bike in its driveway and looked out the little round window in the attic where he had slept all throughout his childhood. He had cried in that room when his father had died. He had whimpered into the pillow so that no one would hear him. 
The house had heard him. 
The man moved back into the house. He knocked down some walls and fixed the roof. He filled it with anger and lined shelves with bitterness, empty bottles and half-drunken ones. He rarely cried now, but he screamed. He screamed at his children and he screamed at his wife. He puts dents in the walls and so, bit by bit, the man broke his family apart. 
Eventually, the children moved out. Neither said goodbye to their father when they left, and they rarely came home except when their father was not home. His wife stayed by him though; his tender wife, who cried when he screamed, who hid her bruises and covered her pain. His wife who whispered her unnumbered excuses into the night when he slept beside her. 
And the house, well, the house became frail and silent; the homely presence which once inhabited it almost gone. 
Then, one stormy night, the couple's screaming continued. They screamed, and they screamed, and when they could no longer scream, they started to cry. They cried about the lives they had ruined. They cried about the life they might have had. They cried about the anger and the weariness and the pain. And, when finally they stopped crying, the man's wife got her things and she left him. She got into her car and drove off into the loneliness of the night.
The house was silent for a long time. So silent one might almost have thought it empty. But the house listened intently, and in the silence, it heard the quietest of weeping. The drunken man wept like he wept when his father died. He wept like a child whose mother neglects him. He wept like an infant whose family forgets him. 
No one would have heard the man weep had the house not been listening. The house that knew weariness, sorrow, and pain, it knew his pain also.
But the man died not know the things that houses know. So, the man got another drink and eventually he fell asleep on the floor. And when the smoke started to stir on the ceiling, and the fire cracked and seared, the man was sleeping still. 
The man died in that house.


...

There is a yard with an old crippled oak tree, blackened by flame. It is leafless in summer and hollow in winter. It died long ago. A girl got married under this oak tree once, many years ago when the tree was far younger and its life full of potential. 
The yard is empty, but a house stood here once. A great big house filled with silent wisdoms and many lifetimes of stories.
A young boy drives up one day to this empty yard. He hasn't been here since his father died. He takes a deep breath and gets out of the car. 
He walks the yard for a while, contemplating about sorrow and unfulfilled potential and how addiction can cripple a man. After much wandering, he finds himself standing where the front used to be. The fire has left a black scar on the earth. It has healed since he was here last. New grass is just starting to grow.
Though the yard is empty now, there was a home here once. Somehow, though there is no house, there is a home here still.
And so, the boy builds a house. He builds a new home, and this house still remembers the things that the old house once knew; the things that those who had once lived here seemed to have forgotten.

      Life is a little like a house, is it not? It is furnished and lined with the days which we live, filled like a shelf with the stories we make. 

And so, the boy builds a house, and he fills it, not with bitterness, sickness, or pain, but with something new. The boy builds a house, and he fills it with life.
And in the shadow of this great big new house, at the foot of an old oak tree which died in a fire, sprouts something new.



Thank you Heinrich Nikel Photography for this photograph and for capturing stories not with words, but with pictures. Although the story of a house was not inspired by this photograph, it certainly could have been. I can almost hear the houses weary groan by the sag of its walls. Oh, what stories this house might have to tell!

Sunday, July 1, 2018

Watership Down

Watership Down has been at the bottom of my to-read list for quite some time. I finally picked it up at my local library a few weeks ago but still, I was unsure whether I would have time to read it.

I am so glad that I did. 

Watership Down is a well-beloved story about Rabbits, so going into it that is exactly what I expected: a loveable and entertaining adventure. But this book was so much more. 

Let me rant about Watership Down for a while. 

The fact that this is considered a children's book, and the fact that it is a story about rabbits, gives this book a certain image that is entirely misleading.

But let me tell you, this is no ordinary rabbit adventure, and these are no ordinary rabbits. While this adventure through the countryside is at times charming and perhaps even a little delightful, it is so in the least childish way imaginable. Rarely have I read a book that was so heartfelt and yet so heartwrenchingly twisted! This book is heartening simply because it is so brutal, it is gruesome, and it is so powerful!
These rabbits are not your ordinary cute and timid bunnies. These rabbits are fierce and they are ferocious! These rabbits are fighters, and it is their fight against the cruelties of a world gone savage that makes this book so empowering! 
  To say that this book was life-changing or eyeopening might be overselling it a bit. But before I began reading it I read somewhere online that after reading this book you will never look at a countryside or a meadow the same way again. And it is in this sense that I can honestly say that, yes, this book was life-changing and it was eye-opening. This book has made countrysides and prairies, not into peaceful meadows, but battlefields where life must fight with all its vigor to survive.

"Your people cannot rule the world, for I will not have it so. All the world will be your enemy, Prince with a Thousand Enemies, and when they catch you, they will kill you. But first they must catch you."
~Frith to El-ahrairah 
Watership Down, by Richard Adams  

Thanks again Dad for taking these pictures for me. It really means a lot that you make the time to support me. 
Check out more of his pictures here 

Monday, June 11, 2018

Editing Madness


I've been back home for a while now, but between work and late night writing/editing I haven't gotten to updating my blog. 
But I thought tonight would be the perfect time.

Tomorrow is a big day because tomorrow is the day I intend to finish editing part one of my book.

The editing process has been slow and at times downright idle. But one thing has kept me going through all this; through all the inconveniences and the frustrations; through all the times when I felt like life was against me and it just didn't work. 

I come home at the end of the day and I wish I could just crash. I wish I could go to bed, or read a book, or waste away in front of the T.V. 

It's so much easier to feel sorry for myself and make excuses. But then I realized something: This is my purpose. It doesn't matter if it's inconvenient or hard. It doesn't matter if I have to stay up late night after night or write and rewrite scenes till I go mad. It doesn't matter, because in the end, all this, all the late nights and the long days, are just a means to an end. 

Because this, all that I'm working for, this is gonna be so worth it!

Anyhow, it's getting late, and I have a big day in front of me.
Goodnight. 

Friday, March 30, 2018

A Series of Choices

Although I haven't posted in a while, I have opened my blog quite often lately. I have started writing post after post and not finished any of them. This is not because they were something that should not be shared but simply because I did not know how to share them.
I will finish this one. Not because I know how, but because it's been too long.

When you run from one place to another, completing task upon task, life gets away from you all too quickly. I have been very busy lately. And although I often drift away during class and reminisce about stories, the ones I will write and the one I am currently living, most of the time I am too distracted and overworked to ponder any such things.
I wanted to take a moment to sit down and ponder again; a moment in which I do not let life distract me and I can forget about the things I have to do this week.
 Life is, after all, a series of tasks, of struggles and storms; of little fights that become bigger fights all of which are a part of the bigger battle. 
I have been so wrapped up in the little tasks that I often forget the big task. And, when I lose sight of the big task, the big battle, and what I am fighting for, this abundance of little fights, this repetive series of tasks, it drains the life out of me.  

I sit in class and I lose myself sometimes. I write the names of characters in between my notes and I wander through the landscapes I have built in my imagination. I read my textbooks and sometimes it makes me sad because I would so much rather be writing my stories. I would so much rather be writing, because it's been so long and my characters are waiting.
 
I made a choice to pursue my love for stories. I chose this path a long time ago, but that does not mean that I am no longer choosing it now. I choose this path every day. I choose it when I get out of bed in the morning and when I study late into the night. I choose it when I go to classes and when I go to work. I choose it again and again. I make this choice every day when I choose to work and to fight instead of taking the easy ride.
I did not just choose this when I first turned down the bend in the road, I am choosing it with every step I take. 
Every day is a choice. 
I make this choice today, and I will make this choice tomorrow, and I will choose it every day after that. 

And the names of my characters, the worlds I have built inside my head, the stories I love and the feelings I've savoured, the ones that only stories can give me, they are all there to remind me why I am here. 


"All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us."
~ Gandalf